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Hey, welcome to Charles rebel recess. This is our first episode, and I'd like to introduce you to something I feel is a little bit different today. So the rebel recess is about what the legal professionals do in their break time. So I feel like it's applicable to any type of industry, any professional, really, anybody, because we all need to take a break. We need to take a step back from what we're doing, whether we're studying, whether we are putting together or creating our empires, or we're trying to get that seed going, and investment and all these different things. Sometimes we need to take a break. Sometimes we need to withdraw, just for our mental health, just so we can be relaxed, just so we can feel like we can keep going. We can keep reaching into our reserves, because sometimes we run out of reserves. So on the rebel recess, this show will have some legal professionals. You might hear from some judges. You're going to hear from some attorneys. You're going to hear from some inspiring attorneys, some law students. Of course, you're going to hear from me, your girl, Shar. And let me tell you a little bit about me. So my name is Shar. I am an Urban Studies major here at UNLV. My minor is an African American and African Diaspora Studies how I came to UNLV. I'm a non traditional student, so I kind of been around a block. I have a little bit of experience. We like to call it seasoned. So as a non traditional student, I spent prior to coming back to school, I spent about 20 years so in commercial real estate. Now, commercial real estate is a very high stressed environment. It's fast paced. It's fast moving. It requires you to be on your toes. It requires you to be a part of the cutting edge, so you want to be ahead of everybody. Commercial real estate is about developing neighborhoods, the economic commerce in neighborhoods, economic development, we work in kind of all different aspects. So we deal with local government. We're dealing with the neighborhood, of course, the communities and how they move, how they ebb, and how they flow. So in doing so, what I learned, like I said, I spent another time doing it. So what I did learn was that if I didn't step back, because there's always networking events, there's always contract negotiations, there's always huge clients that you have to deal with, and you have to say, Okay, this is the forecast of this community. This is your return on investment. These are the forecasting numbers that you're gonna need in order to make the amount that you're trying to make and in order to meet the needs of that community. So when you're doing that, it's almost a 24 hour day job. Some investors on the East Coast, some investors on the West Coast, and as you know, UNLV is on West Coast, so three hours behind me right or before me. I've been in a lie. You look at it, you need to be up. You need to be taking those calls. So it's at some point in my life I thought, well, in my career, I thought I need to take a break. I need to figure this out. I need to unwind. I need I need a release, because you can't just keep going. At some point, there is a moment when you're like, I don't know that I can do it. I'm stressed out, I'm overworked, I'm over stimulated. That's the new word that that's the buzzword now, right? We're over stimulated with everything that's going on, and that's okay, but you also have to learn how to figure that out. Whether it's a hobby, whether it is just taking a moment to therapy is a good thing. I know sometimes it could be some negative stigma to getting therapy, but I am a I am a proponent of therapy. So therapists are great. Counseling is great. If you can do that, taking some time to meditate, maybe you like to dance, maybe you like to sing, you can take some space to do that. Vacationing, traveling is good, whatever it takes, whether it's golfing, whether it's some sort of sport, whether it's board games, whether if it's just chilling out with friends or family who have nothing to do with whatever your field is like, let's say your student. We know that we have a high course load here because they want us to be the best over here at UNLV. With that in mind, if you're continually going and going and going and going and you hit that wall, that little that wall that says, You know what, I can't, I can't learn anymore. I can't, you just kind of hit a brick wall. And when that happens, you need to have to find a way. You have to find a way to release so a lot of times, I like to spend some time with some friends or family that's not going to school, that has doing has nothing to do with studies that I'm studying. Whatever the class is, I don't want to hear about it. I just kind of go cold turkey on it. And I do that for probably a good day. Sometimes it's a weekend, especially during finals or midterms. I'm taking a weekend. It's just gonna happen. It just is what it is, because you do not want to see what char looks like when char is over stimulated with this education. Because everywhere I go, the things that I talk about, it's just always like, I can't talk right now because I'm doing this, or I'm doing that, or have this class and that class this semester, I'm taking six classes, but, you know, I've got a good I think that I have figured out how to balance that low now that I'm in my senior year. So anyway, getting back to it, there are different ways that you can let go of that stress, and that's what the rebel recess is about. I intend to after graduating, next spring, I'll be applying in law school, and I'm studying for my LSATs. Like I told you, I have a six course, court course load, right? Six classes this semester. So I'm sure you can imagine anyone out here that has to take the GRE, or you taking the LSAT, or you're taking any other exam to get into a graduate program. You can understand that studying for it is no joke. You need the time, you need the space, and it can be really it can be a lot. So studying for that has been kind of overwhelming. I'm going to be transparent about that, and even though it's overwhelming, I know what I'm trying to do, so I kind of push myself anyway. But in order for me to be effective at getting that information, taking it on board, really being able to make it workable in my life, I have to, I have to take a break. I have to get on a recess. And so, as you can see, like I said, I say it a lot, rebel recess. So recess, the reason why we're calling it recess is because, like I said, I'm taking the LSAT. I intend to go to law school, because at some point, want to be an attorney, and it's a play on words. Of course, if you familiar with the court setting and the judiciary, you know that when court is in session, sometimes the attorneys in there, they ask for a break, and that break is called a recess. So with that play on words, even though we also know when we're in school, like when we're in elementary school, we take a break. We take a recess there too. So playing on that, what we want to do is see what does the judiciary do when they're doing that break? We're not really going to talk about anything legal, even though they're from the legal community. We want to talk about, how do you decompress? What do you do when you're not in the courtroom? For law students, we want to know, how do you take on this tremendous course load, if you guys are not aware, Boyd law is second in the nation with legal writing that is a big feat. Okay, legal documents, they can be very extensive, even though they're called briefs. So those briefs are the longest briefs you ever want to see. But in order to be effective and to be touted as the second in the entire nation, you have to have a wide breadth of knowledge. So the students over at Boyd are really, really working hard to you. To be the best at that, and that requires reading a lot of case law, that requires being able to interpret that case law. So you kind of have to be the best of the best in order to make that happen, to effectuate that. So with that being said, and having such a long like, such a large amount of data that needs to be processed. What do they do? How do they break it up? How are they able to breathe?

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In doing that, and I kind of want to figure out how I'm going to be able to breathe. Okay, so I'm a little bit selfish in coming up with this, or bringing this podcast to you, because I kind of want to find a cheat sheet, and I'm hoping that I can provide you with cheat sheet. If you don't know what you can do, maybe you tried all these different things that you know of because we don't know what we don't know, right? So maybe you tried all these different things and you don't know what else can you try to, kind of relax, relate, release. Back in the day, there used to be this, I guess, I guess you we called it a sitcom. I don't, I think we would call it a dramedy in this generation, with a different world. And there was a character on that show called God, that Jasmine guy played Whitley. Whitley Gilbert, that was her name, and she used to, it was so funny, because she'd be like, relax or late, release, right? But that's for real. That's for real. We got to figure out how we can relax. So I kind of would like to know if you guys, and I hope at some point I'll be able to take some calls so that I can on the show at some point, or at least schedule some calls with some of you guys, if you reach out to our page and let us know, like, what kind of things do you do? Right? So next week, I am going to have on the show justice Michael L Douglas. I don't know if you guys know him. You should know him if you're a part of the legal community, or just in the in the southern Nevada or Nevada period, because he was the first African American Supreme Court Nevada justice, right? And he was also the chief justice quite a few times. You should check him out. I'll try to put his bio up on our page so that you can familiarize yourself with him. But he has some great stories. He has some great information on how you can, kind of, you know, release it, because he's been in the legal profession for a very long time. He's now retired, a retired justice, however, being in the profession for as long as he has, and the breath of experience that he has, and he continues to contribute in the community, and it's like he has to have something that that that he used some kind of tips and tricks, that he was working through, some hobbies, definitely his family, that helped get him through all of this. Because as a Supreme Court justice, I can only imagine right what the expectation was, you know, what the what they needed from him, and how many cases came through, hey and then, prior to that right being an attorney, how long how many cases did he run through? How many, how many people was he responsible for advocating on behalf of and rightly dividing the law right of the land. So next week, make sure you tune in for that interview to kind of get his educated tips on what we can do to relax, even if it's about trying to figure out that people like to talk about the work life balance. I also like not it's not just the work life balance, but it's also the student life balance. How can we find a way to just be ourselves, be who we are? How do we continue to keep our light shining, to keep the charisma going, to keep the creative energies flowing, to keep ourselves fresh, because things can get stale pretty quick. If you're over inundated with work, study, life stresses. It always has to be some sort of a balance. We have to be able to keep our mental health in order so that we can be more effective to others. A lot of times, we're constantly giving from our cup because we feel like we have a lot to give, that we are that we're needed. By everyone, and that may be true, but at the same time, we have to remember that we have to understand that we need to be filled as well, that we need to have access to anything that can recharge our batteries that can fill our cups, and sometimes you may be the only person that is filling the cup. I know I feel like and I want to say that most people feel like they are the go to person for everyone. And then when they have that moment when they have been working so hard and it's like, oh my god. I feel like I'm going to, like, explode, figuratively, right? I know I just sounded crazy when I said that word. It was all stumbly. But please bear with me. Don't judge me so but we feel like we are so overwhelmed, and then we're starting think to think through, who can we go to? Right? Who's our go to person? Who can we go to in order to offload? And like I said, for me, I'm a huge proponent of therapy. I have a therapist that I see weekly. She is very helpful in providing me with coping mechanisms, but also with just listening. So hearing this stuff out loud, it kind of helps me to sort it through. And the other things that I like to do is I like to listen to music. So that's what char does on a recess. She listens to a lot of music, and it's really again, don't hurt me. What I listen to is gospel music, but it has a fusion of hip hop and rap in that genre, some kind of R, B, upbeat. I can also do a good quartet, so I do the wide breadth of that music. Another thing that I like to do is travel when I can. There are a lot of websites out there that has really and a lot of the airlines these days, they have really low deals. So I capitalize on that. And because we live in Vegas, hey, I will do a stay K in a minute. You hear me, I don't care if it's for a day, a stay K is my jam. So I will go, I'll close the doors, I'll put my music on. I won't even walk around the resort. I'll just be in the room chilling. I'm that one chick that will be chilling in the room. And like, you know what this is about? Me kind of coming down from that overstimulation, over stimulization, right? I think that's a word, I don't know, but I allow myself to make up at least three words a year. So if that's a made a word, just know I that's, that's my own code, my own rule. I hope you guys are keeping count on it, though, but maybe, maybe you shouldn't keep out, because sometimes I kind of break that rule. But anyway, so I really do hope that you guys join me and listen in so that you can get some really good tips on how to set aside some time for you to to de stress, to be able to breathe so that you don't feel like you're drowning. And some of us are out here without a study partner. I like to call them study partners. It's not literally a study partner, but if you're on campus and you feel like you know, I really haven't made any friends because, because I'm about my business, I'm trying to get from point A to point B, and I don't really want any detours. You still need to be able to take care of you. You still need to be able to take a break. So I know with me, I take most of my classes online, but still, I come to campus for some of the events that they have that pertain to my major, that pertains to what I'm trying to do. If it's something that's like a volunteer service to give back to community, I'll do that too, especially if it, like I said, if it relates to my major, then I'm kind of all in. But being transparent, I don't really. I don't have a study buddy. I don't and you know, my personal life and the student life they are, it can be taxing. I love every minute of it. I feel like, if my life, or everything that I've done up to this point, if it is not, if it's not like, I feel like it's not too bad, right? I feel like everything that I've done have gotten me to this moment to make me who I am and have me sit. Before you right now talking about this recess, and it was a small price to pay. Whatever I went through was small price to pay, right because it gave me experience. It gave me the ability to be able to relate to others and to be able to talk to them about things that might be helpful. So I reach back from that experience, and I say, Okay, I know that after working as hard as I did, and being where I'm at and deciding to come back to school at my big age, right to come back and say, You know what,

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I can do something else. I can have a new chapter. I can come back to school, because I started school when I was 17, God so many moons ago, and life started lifeing. So I had to leave, and I went on. I had some children and got married, and then eventually found commercial real estate, and I loved it. Still love it to this day. At some point, I had a commercial real estate firm, a boutique one, in Southern California, and I loved it. But when you are working for yourself, I was the first African American in the area, covering the territory that I was covering, I was covering from Santa Barbara all the way to San Diego, and in doing that, trying to maintain the tenants that I was representing, that was tenant representation. So I really, I kind of focused in on lease contracts. And I had about six national tenants, like I said, that I represented. And to do that was really, it took a lot of hard work. It took a lot of me showing up. It took a lot of early morning morning phone calls, a lot of late night phone calls, a lot of face time on, you know, the computer on the internet, getting in and kind of learning the market, researching what I need to research. I covered things that I called everything mom. So I would show up at the trade shows and the conferences, and I'd be like, you know, pitching these tenants, these huge tenants, and it was hard because, you know, as an African American, so being an African American female, right, being a minority in that industry, back then, when I was doing it, I was kind of like, I was a unicorn. So come in, and I'm like, Okay, I'm char, and I cover everything, mom. So if you're doing something that has to do with kids, if you're doing something, if you want to have a spot that has to do something with family, so we're talking malls, we're talking bookstores, we're talking schools, things like that. I'm like, I'm your girl. I know how these communities ebb and flow. I mean, I had my elevator pitch down. Okay, I was not playing up in that place. However, it took a lot to be that person. It was stressful, and I tried to make it look like it wasn't stressful. And it wasn't until I want to say, God, let's see. I started with a company called Cushman and Wakefield right working for other people. So I work with a company called studly. I worked with a company called Rosano partners, and quite a few of the firms out there, and they were really good at what they did. Back when I worked for Cushman and Wakefield, they were the number one commercial real estate firm in the country, and I believe that their global offices were number one as well. And I was a part of the number one team in the number one producing office. And so it was a lot. It took a lot. And it wasn't until, as I was saying, it wasn't until maybe about 15 years in that I realized that I needed to come up for air, that I needed to, like, take a break. So that's when I started my journey on, okay, what can you do to and you can't take a lot of time? Like, initially, I felt like I couldn't take a lot of time. So it's like, what can I do to kind of break it up. Because golfing back then really wasn't a break. It was networking. It was a networking event. You were going to be a part of a foursome, and you go in and on the back nine, the back eight, whatever you were talking deals with these people, and you're trying to get you're trying to get it done. So it was that wasn't a it wasn't a release, it wasn't something I could relax. But I can tell you what I did do. What I did was I harken back to my childhood years. I was a softball player, I was a pitcher, and as a pitcher with. Softball. I really enjoyed it. I also enjoyed, like, you know, hitting the ball. So I would hit, hit up a batting cage, right? I would go there for a couple hours, and that's where you would find me. You'd see me at fast pitch, knocking those balls like, you know, in the orbit. It was a good way for me to release my stress, connecting that. And I know out here in Vegas, there's a lot of different places you can go to to release your stress. There are some batting cages out here. I have yet to check them out, but I do feel like I want to go and get back into that. I've also been made aware of these things called Smash rooms. I don't know if you guys know about them, smash rooms or raise rooms. There's quite a few of them out here, and they, um, they allow you to for a nominal fee, they allow you to go in and break things. So I do plan on making a reservation at one for myself and my children so that we can just kind of go and kind of release some of this stress and this tension of back to school. And another thing that I like to do are escape rooms. I've been quite a few of them out here in this valley, and they are always very entertaining. They kind of speak to my creativity. So I love those as well. Like I said, I do like to travel, and I feel like, please, you know I will come up with some more things for you guys to try. And if you wouldn't mind going ahead and seeing me next week on shards, rebel recess. Thank you for listening. See you next week.

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